Men never make passes at girls who wear glasses

Are you a glasses wearer? How do you feel about it?

I wear glasses, and have for over 15 years. I’ve also had two children. Clearly then, I’ve had sex at least twice in my life, so I can vouch for the fact that some men do actually make passes at bespectacled women. Does it put people off though? Do glasses make a difference to how fanciable you find someone?


Would these glasses put you off?

When I was younger I felt pretty uncomfortable about wearing my glasses. In fact, despite having a pair from about the age of 13, I didn’t wear them at school, college or university until I was 19. Needless to say there was an awful lot of squinting involved. Part of this was a crippling self-consciousness that didn’t need fuelling, but mainly it was down to the fact that my glasses were classic NHS prescription specs – I was unpopular enough at school anyway with my geeky ways, I really didn’t need glasses to reinforce the stereotype.

During my late teens and early twenties, I was still pretty vain, and would regularly sacrifice the power of sight on a night out. It  did increase my hit rate, but how much of this was due to me appearing more attractive, and how much was simply that I couldn’t see to make an informed decision? I suspect the latter, along with a good dose of Peach Schnapps and lemonade.

Nowadays I’m more at ease with my short-sightedness, but still from time to time if I’m going somewhere fancy I’ll put in contact lenses instead. They hurt my eyes, and make me blink about 20 times a minute, but for some reason this feels worth it. It only happens about once a month at most, and I’ve bought a stash of daily disposables online, (check out for a fab range), so at least it’s not pricey vanity.

What do you reckon? Have I been unnecessarily vain all my life, or do people really judge a glasses wearing book by its cover?

Photo credit – Paul Stevenson



8 thoughts on “Men never make passes at girls who wear glasses

  1. My hubby drives me mad by always suggesting I wear contact lenses when we go out socially. I am perfectly happy to wear my glasses (and find them more comfortable) but he obviously thinks I don’t look my best with them on! It makes me feel unattractive when I wear them

  2. I have a couple of friends who wear glasses and they look incredibly sexy. In fact they both think they look odd without them and I definitely agree that they look better with than without. Obviously it depends on the individual and also probably on your level of confidence. And you know what they say, – confidence is very attractive.

  3. My husband calls my glasses my “bond secrectary” look. I don’t need to wear them full time as they are just to correct a mild stigmatism. I assosiate them in my mind with actually doing work, usually academic, I’m not sure I would think to put them on if I was going clubbing. Having said that I do tend to also associate glasses with “the big reveal, booky girl suddenly looks beautiful when she takes them off” so I tend to assume spectacle wearers are pretty.
    On a semi related note, I read an amusing blog post about buying glasses in China the other day. It doesn’t answer any of the questions you asked but is worth reading for the comedy value!

  4. I’m afraid, much as I’d like to big up glasses (which I wore for about 20 years), I think I undoubtedly look better without them (and I’d tried all sorts of styles before my laser eye surgery). My current OH looks at not-so-old photos of me where the only real difference in my looks is that I wore glasses then, and says I look completely different. I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t have been nearly as attracted (in the first instance, of course) if I’d been wearing specs when we met. We all know how important first impressions are…

  5. I love my glasses! I’ve worn glasses since I was 7 so I guess I wasn’t aware too much of the vanity aspect of it at that age. I have to wear glasses all day every day so don’t have a choice but they’ve become part of who I am and I have a lot of men saying they find them very attractive, that I really suit them. I guess I don’t know different though…

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